By Rachel, Contributing Writer
If you have children, whether 1 or a dozen, you know how hard it can be to spend time with a child individually. But it is SO important! There are research studies galore that talk about the importance of giving children quality time. In this series, we’ll explore why it’s important, how to logistically make it work, and some ideas of what to do.
5 Great Reasons Every Kid Needs One-On-One Time
1. They Deserve It
Each child is a special gift to the family. They are each unique human beings, created in the image of God, who deserve the best their parents can give them. So of course, that would include time. In our fast-paced world, time is such a scarce commodity. Maybe now more than ever, the giving of time shows love.
2. I Love Them
Of course we love our children! But do we really show it in a way they understand? Spending time with them will show them that love we want to convey loudly and clearly. It’s one thing to say “I love you,” and it’s entirely different to say “I love you so much that I am willing to block off time on my calendar, turn off my phone, and focus completely on you.” One-on-one time is a fantastic opportunity for bonding, whether it’s something exciting like a theme park or something mundane like a quick trip to Costco (is that an oxymoron???).
3. I Love Getting to Know Each Child as an Individual
It is so easy sometimes to think of my kids as a pack. An inseparable group. Especially because I homeschool and am very intentional about developing and nurturing their sibling relationships, I often lump them into one big group. This is great and my kids truly do have beautiful relationships with one another, but they are each their own individual person. I want to get to know them each individually as well as part of the group. What are my daughter’s hopes and dreams for the future? What are my son’s passions and fears? These are things that often don’t come up in the “pack.”
4. I’m Building a “Relationship Bank” for Later
Right now my children are young, with the oldest being only 11. At this point in their lives things are pretty simple, but it won’t always be that way. I desire to always be a safe and steady person in my kids’ lives. One way I do that is by investing in those relationships now, while they’re still young. If they feel comfortable telling me about the latest Beanie Boo or the kid who picked on them in basketball now, it is my hope that they will feel comfortable telling me about cheating on a test or being offered drugs later.
5. I Enjoy it as Much as They Do
My kids really truly are fabulous people. And so are yours! I often wonder how I got so blessed to be able to call these people family. I recently went to a musical with my 11 year old daughter and we both had a blast! It was fun girl time that we will both remember for a long time. A few weeks ago I took my 4 year old son along on some errands while his older brother and sister were at co-op. He felt so important being mommy’s helper, and he still talks about the yummy samples he got at the grocery store. It’s great for them and it’s great for me. Win-win!
Stay tuned! We will soon discuss how to put this into practice and what to do with your child once you get your one-on-one time.
Why Do You Make it a Priority to Spend One-On-One Time With Your Children?
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