Comments on: The True “Worst Type” of Mom

By: Suzann Regetz Lewis

Suzann Regetz Lewis — Mon, 14 May 2012 00:13:19 +0000

Wow! What an amazing post. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for writing this and putting it out there. This week I have been the WORST type of mom. Honestly I have had more days in the last two years than I care to admit. Patience is not something God blessed me with. I pray daily to be a kinder, more patient mom. Some days are a real struggle though. I said to my husband yesterday that I am the world’s worst mom. Didn’t even want to acknowledge Mother’s Day as I definitely don’t deserve it. Thank you for making me feel a little less alone.

By: Wolfmother

Wolfmother — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 05:12:01 +0000

I fail daily too, and I also keep trying. Personal growth is a long, frustrating journey sometimes but it is a part of life. This post has a very important message for all moms.

By: Stacy @Stacy Makes Cents

Stacy @Stacy Makes Cents — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 22:13:08 +0000

Oh Kate – I’m here all the time. Sometimes I tell Barry “I am not a good mom.” I feel you – and it’s nice to know that all moms feel this way.

By: Susan

Susan — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 19:06:58 +0000

I don’t think this thing just applies to “moms.” I think it applies to women in general. We are just plain mean and uber-critical of each other. And It all starts at a very young age. I didn’t realize this until I was a mother myself, watching my young daughter interact and play with other girls. It starts early, and if you ask me, it stays with us forever.

I’m 46 now, and in those years, I have eliminated many relationships with women because I thought some of these people were down right vicious. And I did it all, too. The moms groups, the play dates, the parties for the moms groups, the Girl Scouts, the church events. I gave and I gave and I gave. I helped when these women needed a last minute babysitter, I cooked dinner when those mother’s were sick, I helped them move when their husband’s job was transferred. No matter what I did or said, something was always coming back to me about what someone had said. My clothes, my hair. my parenting, my personal financial stuff. These women talked about it all, and what they didn’t know, they made up! (BTW, this wasn’t one group of women. This happened to me in 3 different towns with all sorts of income brackets, etc.)

Tired of being heartbroken by their words and actions, i cut them out. I now have 2 friends that I know I can rely on because they have been there in my most difficult moments. I don’t need any more than that. I am very selective of whom I give myself too and my life has never been happier or easier. No one to judge me or criticize me. I thought I would miss my prior hectic life, but I haven’t. I have my two BFFs, my family and Jesus. What more could I possibly need?!

By: Justyn @ Creative Christian Mama

Justyn @ Creative Christian Mama — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 18:59:34 +0000

I love this, Kate! Like you said, I just had the revelation of my little girl reflecting me, so I can completely relate to that.
I have been learning the last few years that what is “right” for me isn’t always the right thing for everybody. Yes, there are moral absolutes, but most of the things we mamas get defensive or dogmatic about are really just many different “right” ways of doing things. I blogged about this a few months ago. I know not all of the readers here are Christians, but for those who are… “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free” (Galatians 5:1). If I am free to choose what I believe to be best for my children, so are all the other mamas out there. We need to encourage each other, not attack anybody who has found their own “right” way when it differs from ours.
Thanks so much!

By: Shaina

Shaina — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 17:21:07 +0000

Wonderful post! Very encouraging, and very well said!

By: Jessica B.

Jessica B. — Sat, 28 Jan 2012 13:48:37 +0000

Amen! Well said, Ms. Kate!

I think this is a tension is common to us all as humans and not just moms. Anywhere there’s not a clearly dilineated “You must/should do this.” and there’s a choice involved, there are always going to be people who would choose to do it differently. We are going to be experiencing a great deal of these tensions this year in the States as it’s an election year – everyone’s personal politics will be coming out to play and the “You’re horrible to think in anyway that’s different from how I think” card will be popping up a lot.

The world would be a much better place if we could follow your advice at the beginning of the piece and vent on paper or in prayer or to a close personal friend/family member, then put on our grown up panties and speak nicely to those who disagree with us. Thanks for writing this!