I love Thanksgiving. I love the colors. I love the weather. I love the food – not the gorging part, but the roasted part! My hubby is not so hot on it.
Earlier this year he said he was cancelling Thanksgiving. Then on Halloween he said he was getting ready to cancel Christmas. I know it is something we have all heard; the “commercialization” of [insert holiday here], but seriously when it becomes about show – where’s the meaning?
As homemakers, I know we love decorating and beautifying our homes. I’m all for it! Creating a comfy, mood invoking environment to go along with the season. As a mom of three and still working outside the home more than I would like, these seasons can come and go very quickly.
Sometimes to the point of those times we want to be full of meaning, just squashed in to our busy lives. Thanksgiving, or any other holiday can sneak up on you. The great thing is that finding meaning doesn’t take a lot of time – just a little intention.
1. What is your Intention?
So, my husband wants to cancel the holidays. This is in part because, he too, feels like they are being thrust into our lives. And that is our fault. We have failed to set in motion traditions for our family.
Decide with your husband, or family, what you want out of the holiday. Maybe you need a real rest? Maybe you are up for an exciting adventure? Whatever it is, take it as it comes and remember to give thanks for the stress or the serenity.
This year we aren’t doing a big extended family lunch. It’s just going to be the five of us. We may even end up having Mexican food instead of the traditional dinner. Yes, we live in So Cal, hubby and daughter are up for Mexican any day of the week.
2. What Traditions do you have?
For myself, I have started the Daily Thanks tradition in November. I intend to carry it on till next November and start all over again. The kids and I have also started discussing things we are grateful for on the way home from school – the car is a perfect time for some uninterrupted discussion!
For our family, we have the whole week of Thanksgiving off – well the kids do at least, Papa will be present Thursday and Friday. Those free days before Thursday we will be crafting quite a bit.
I love the idea of a Thankful Tree. Whether it is 3-D or a wall mount, or maybe all your busy life can handle this year is a box. Whatever fits in, however big or small, it will make a difference in your family’s outlook on the holiday.
3. What Memories do you want?
Before we had children, my husband and I dreamed about the traditions we would pass on to our kids. This is something we constantly have to revisit. I don’t want our cynicism rubbing off on them. I desire for them to have a historical and spiritual basis for all our holidays.
But most of all I want them to think back on these times are precious. Something that inspires them to pass onto my grand kids – wow that sounds weird. But in all seriousness, they are the biggest part of what we will leave on this earth.
For this year, my children will remember a Sunday dessert afternoon with the big family. A week of expressing their thanks with their hands, through crafting and cooking. Sourdough cinnamon rolls on Thanksgiving morning and a cool, crisp (I sure hope its not hot) walk down our favorite path. Typical So Cal Mexican food for lunch – and maybe Mama will get a mini Thanksgiving dinner in the evening.
Most of all I hope they remember being together and intentionally giving thanks to God for all his has blessed us with – even those messes we will get to clean up!
What are you doing this season to give thanks?